When I was younger I needed the whole shebang – flowers, chocolates, a present that sparkled, and a mushy card. Did I once ever get them all? No. Was I disappointed? Yes.
I wanted the stuff that proved (insert loved one’s name here) how much (insert loved one’s name here) loved me.
For my part in the Valentine’s Day festivities it was always me making an amazing dinner for (insert loved one’s name here) with candles and music and fabulous food.
Then I met my husband and my list of wants got shorter; flowers, chocolates, and a mushy card.
Did I get them all? No. Was I disappointed? No, I was not.
After 18 years together flowers and chocolates have even became too much, but bless him, he still shows up with flowers and chocolates and I still make the romantic dinner menu.
But this year is different. It’s a hockey night and my husband plays hockey on Tuesday nights. Maybe it’s because we are older and we have been together for so long but we’ve decided to go Rambo and celebrate Valentine’s Day on February 15th.
I got the idea from a very funny Bud Light commercial that aired years ago. Click on the link to see what got me thinking that a date change was actually hilarious and so us: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzD9xsJM238
Yup, we’re making February 15th our Valentine’s Day!
Now, as far as the stuff is concerned – actions do speak louder than presents so I guess it’s Valentine’s Day every day at our house. We cook dinners together. We go for walks with the dog together. We go to movies together. We do a lot of stuff together, and at this point in our lives it seems that this is what matters the most. Doing stuff together.
A tiny bit of advice from the trenches – Valentine’s Day is special, so decide together how you’re going to celebrate it. Expectations can ruin a relationship unless you’re both on the same expectation page. What works for us might not work for you. The point is finding out what does and always being able to say, “Honey, I’ve got your back!” Now go out there and tell the person you love just how much they mean to you and then go and do some stuff together.